On day seven of my 40 Days of Self-Love journey I shared this in Facebook-land, “A week into this journey and there are patterns forming. Noticing how cruel and dismissive I can be to myself. Having loving conversations to change that. Noticing how much I over-schedule and over-extend myself. Resting into ways to change that.
Noticing…loving… is an important pattern. One worth nudging into our consciousness, mulling over, integrating into ourselves. Especially if we’re survivors looking to thrive.
Over the past few years I’ve used different words to describe that same rhythm: action —> reflection and presence —> allowing come to mind. But noticing —> loving feels like the most engaged, active version. For now, anyway…
Both pieces are essential, and worth exploring and cultivating. The noticing piece popped up in an interview I recently recorded with Rebecca Thompson of Consciously Parenting (which will be available with lots of other great resources in July.) We talked a little about how noticing takes practice. Loving does, too…
Noticing —> loving —> noticing —> loving is an essential practice because it’s what makes us able to create lasting change; in our lives, in our communities, in our ecosystems.
Its simple, wave-like pulse echos other life-sustaining rhythms. Our lub-dub heartbeat for example, and our inhale/exhale breath pattern.
And, like our heartbeat and breathing, it’s surface-simple. Underneath it’s womb-deep and eternal. It’s the essential dance of our evolving soul. Be present and notice. —> Be loving and love.
So, here’s my invitation to you…
If it makes your heart sing, start noticing your noticing. What do you notice well? What slips by unnoticed? When you notice something uncomfortable, are you able to stay present with it? Or does it slip out of your notice? Remember, noticing is non-judgmental. You’re simply…noticing. You never know where noticing might take you
And consider sharing what you’re noticing. Here. On your own blog. With loved ones or a trusted community. Because, we’re all in this together!
Meet Tracie Nichols, M.A., I.A.C.
I’m a tree-hugging, earth-loving educator, mentor, and blogger dedicated to helping survivors of violence cultivate resiliency and thrive through developing their own unique, two-way relationship with nature.
There’s a special place in my heart and practice for
- practitioners and business owners who are also survivors of physical/sexual/emotional violence and
- individualist, secretly fierce, tree-hugging, feminist-leaning mid-life women who want to claim their voice and live Fierce!